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Posted by FRANCIS SEQUEIRA in Mentality on 06 Nov 20140 Comments

Success begins when we look at things with a positive attitude, which is a blessing attracting more blessings in our life. Expecting the best to come even in worst case scenarios makes us hardcore enthusiastic individuals. Hard times are ephemeral. People have come out of debts, diseases and disabilities with hope and cheerful approach to life and a strong will to live. Some trying events, unpleasant memories, past losses or failures generate self-pity and self-hate, which can be immediately nipped. Negativity is a self-imposed curse on our own mind.  A little bit of courage along with a bold will to progress in life work wonders in our life. This gives a fillip to our self-esteem unconsciously leading us toward success.

Success begins when we look at things with a positive attitude, which is a blessing attracting more blessings in our life. Expecting the best to come even in worst case scenarios makes us hardcore enthusiastic individuals. Hard times are ephemeral. People have come out of debts, diseases and disabilities with hope and cheerful approach to life and a strong will to live. Some trying events, unpleasant memories, past losses or failures generate self-pity and self-hate, which can be immediately nipped. Negativity is a self-imposed curse on our own mind.  A little bit of courage along with a bold will to progress in life work wonders in our life. This gives a fillip to our self-esteem unconsciously leading us toward success.

Many undesirable circumstances give rise to negative emotions-psychological and physical threats, insults or uncertainties. Very often we make these situations worse with our own anxieties and anger.  People try to put us down by frightening us or fooling us. It is necessary to face such unsocial elements with courage, confidence and clear, rational thinking, which saves us from falling in the pit of negative emotions such as fears, frustration or fury.

Wrong impressions and self-delusions mislead us into follies and failures. We spend time day-dreaming about the future or reel into the memories of the past. The past reality is not the present reality. The future will be completely different.  It becomes absolutely necessary to look at the glaring present ‘here and now’ reality realistically and realize that the ups and downs are part of life. No path is straight and there are bound to be bounds and bondages.

Looking at the reality ‘as it is’ guides a car driver to steer clear of all the obstructions and dangers toward his/her destination. Being in the present, mindful and alert averts accidents. We need to go ahead gracefully with balance, find better ways and means, be bold while overcoming obstacles and keeping on the right track. Thinking purposefully and positively helps in guiding us toward success.

There are people everywhere around us with negative attitude, worries, whacky wants and desperate desires. We have to differentiate between intelligent well-wishers showing us the way to success and the idiotic bullies who are confusing us along the way. Negative emotions only create problems, positive thoughts solve problems. Dismiss every negative, critical thought generating fears or despair with opposite, positive thought of hope and courage. Take life easy with cheer. Happiness is an antidote for depression.

Work on the weaknesses and build on the strengths, skills and talents which will constantly bolster self-confidence. Repeat self-affirmations to impress it on our inner minds deeply. This is a success mindset. Everything our mind conceives we can achieve.

Be sure of the purpose of life and choose goals accordingly. Make concrete plan by writing all the pros and cons on paper. This gives us the right direction and guides us to determine our destiny positively. It helps us to focus on our smart goals and strive to achieve them passionately with zest and Zen. This state-of-mind fosters positive belief and positive self-image. Every small success leads to more successes.  Failures admonish us to correct our path and mend our ways. Failures become milestones toward success. Persistence inspires us to champion the cause of success even in the event of repeated failures. Failures are caused because of ignorance or inflexibility. Ignorance can be dealt with knowledge and skill, inflexibility is tackled through experience and expertise, proper planning backed by positive thinking.

Our life is sometimes dictated by others, especially by our near and dear ones, who may instill negative beliefs in our mind which tend to destroy our self-confidence during childhood and even at present. Negative thoughts are ingrained into our unconscious mind and these negative thoughts bring about negative circumstances, causing emotional aggravation, agitation, anxieties, anger and aggression.   Constantly complaining about others and cursing others only reinforces our negativity and makes our thinking negative. Freeing the mind from the expectations of others and setting proper priorities of life takes us to the heights of success in life. This success-state-of-mind took Sir Edmund Hillary and Sherpa Tenzing to conquer Mount Everest for the first time. This success-oriented thinking along with the special skills took Neil Armstrong to walk on the Moon and return back to Earth.

Comparison with others sometimes puts us into a fix, especially when we look at others with envy and look down on our ownselves.  We are all influenced to some or large extent by the environment and the people around us. Disappointing circumstances and/or depressing people lead us to self-ruin. Sometimes we are compelled to live in gloomy conditions because of socio-economic reasons. The mind is disturbed by others around us who are unhappy, anti-social or confused. We find ourselves caught in vicious circle of negativity, bound by the chains of past helplessness and shackled by the dark clouds of hopelessness.

Taking responsibility for all our misery and being happy with whatever we have makes us feel self-contented and worthy. Appreciating the qualities of others and making them our role models serves the purpose of inspiring ourselves to be successful. Looking at the success and prosperity of others positively gives us an insight into several possibilities and opportunities to succeed in life. Freeing the mind from the negativity of the past and looking ahead at the future with a clear vision of our purpose and goals, shows us the path to achieve our cherished goals to succeed in life. When we believe we are in control of our life and that we alone are the masters of our destiny, we get rid of all false beliefs that we are the victims of the compelling circumstances and peer pressure. We believe that we can get the highest paid job in the face of stiff competition or make it big in business. Beauty queens challenge themselves and are finally crowned after being challenged by many others in the contest. They have learnt to challenge the challenges. Competition is a way of modern life. The positive attitude ‘I am the best’ and ‘born to win’ helps us to challenge competition and succeed in life.

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